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    Issues for Grief/Loss Counselling

    • Death of a loved one
    • Miscarriage/abortion
    • Personal injury/illness
    • Redundancy
    • Moving home
    • End of relationship
    • Children moving away

    What is bereavement?

    Bereavement is the feeling of grief when we lose someone, or something, close to us. Death and loss are an inevitable part of life; shock, numbness, anger and sadness form part of the natural grievng process. However, if left unprocessed, such losses can leave us with emotional scars and long-term difficulties including mental health issues.At some point in our lives, we each have to face the heartache of losing someone, or something, we care deeply about. We may feel a range of emotions and sensations in our grief such as shock, emotional numbness, anger, guilt and regret. We may also feel depressed, exhausted and slowed down. The pain of losing something or someone we care so deeply about can seem so monumental that we may feel like we can never recover from the loss. Yet, while we each have our own methods of coming to terms with bereavement and grief, for those who are unable to process these difficult emotions, such losses can leave deep emotional scars and potentially long-term emotional difficulties.

    Stages of Bereavement, Grief and Loss?

    ​The first usual response to a bereavement is one of shock and disbelief. Denial normally follows, as the bereaving find it difficult to accept the reality of the loss. For example, you might try to tell yourself that life is just the same as it was before, and you may re-enact activities such as making a cup of tea for your partner, that you went through with your loved one before the loss. These feelings of denial may then progress into feelings of anger and even guilt. These emotions can manifest themselves in a variety of different ways and can include blaming others for our loss, becoming easily agitated and having emotional outbursts. Subsequently, a period of depression may follow which can include symptoms such as sleepiness, irritability, changes in appetite, physical pains, loss of motivation and social withdrawal. You may feel that life simply does not have a purpose anymore. Finally, at some point you will move to a position of acceptance whereby you realise that life must go on. Whilst you may still think about the person or object that you have lost, these thoughts may become less intense and less frequent, allowing you to regain your energy and motivation. However, reaching this final stage can take considerable time, and is a process that cannot be hurried.

    How can I help with Bereavement/Grief?

    Bereavement counselling can be a helpful way of coming to terms with loss. Whether it is the death of a loved one, redundancy or moving home, I can help you through the grieving process, by helping you to deal with painful emotions, accept loss, make the relevant adjustments and develop productive and individualised coping mechanisms. As a trained Bereavement therapist I can offer you a space to explore your feelings in a confidential and safe environment and can support you, either on a short or long-term basis, through this difficult time. Through Bereavement therapy I can help you to:
    ·         Understand the mourning process and the significance of loss
    ·         Have opportunity to work through painful and confusing emotions
    ·         Resolve additional problems such as depression or anxiety
    ·         Help you to adjust to a new sense of self.